The family is the center of everything the church does.
The church stands unequivocally for the traditional family between man and women. The Family:A Proclamation to the World is the church's official position on the family.
President Spencer W. Kimball in the April 1978 General Conference quoted a high national official who visited church authorities said;
"The family is so critical; it is so fundamental to the strength of our civilization, a fact that seems to be forgotten. It is so terribly important. It is our chief source of moral strength, our chief source of physical and emotional health; it is our chief source of protection against adversity. It is the only institution that guarantees an environment which will insure the perpetuation of the principles and concepts that have made us strong."
"I remember a witness," he said, "that was testifying before a Congressional committee about the family, and he said, 'Before you fool around with the family, you'd better realize that all known human societies during the recorded history of mankind have all ended up with a family organization for the rearing and training of children. Before you try to get rid of it, you'd better find out why all civilizations in history have clung to it.' I think your church's emphasis on it has been truly extraordinary."
Marriage and Family is the bedrock of every society, and the greatest source of happiness in this life and the next. If you do it right, married life only gets better and better as you grow older.
Satan knows that marriage and family life is the most single important aspect of mortal life. He knows that society would unravel and completely be destroyed without families. This is why Satan focuses his attacks on the family. Satan's mission is to make you as miserable as he is, and he is wretched beyond comprehension.
A broken family causes great stress and discouragement.
Because Satan is doing everything he can to destroy the families, which in turn weakens communities, nations and the world; you have an imperative duty to rely on Christ and his atonement.
Satan's effort do destroy families is not just spiritual but economical. Many families struggle financially. Additionally, Satan succeeds when righteous young people don't marry or have children because of money and the economy. Socialism is a way he destroys families economically. Socialism is the royal road to communism. Here is a
a funny youtube video cartoon that summarizes the evils of socialism.
The Apostles and Prophets preach all the time that we need to help out the poor and downtrodden as much as we can. But it must be done in the Lord's way not the worlds. The Lord's way is often through self-help. President Benson said "We must dedicate our strength to serving the needs, rather than the fears of the world....I believe errands of mercy, such as the distribution of goods, housing, and clothing to those in need, are rendered most effectively when handled by private individuals and organizations such as the Church." Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson, Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988.
The federal government is too big and bureaucratic to help the poor and needy in any significant manner. There always will be the poor and needy, but there will be much less if the government steps down and empowers the free market system to work its magic. Some rich and wealthy individuals will be stingy with their money; but there are also many charitable and pure hearts who would give a lot if there were not so many pointless rules and regulations. Many charitable private citizens, with the means could do far more and make a lasting impact than the federal or state government could come close to doing.
Of course there are more than these, but these are common themes the prophets teach.
Anger is something you have complete control over. It is false that blowing off steam improves your condition, it actually makes it worse. Relationship experts talk about an emotional bank account. Whenever you act out in anger you withdraw any deposits you had in your spouse's emotional bank account. You may bankrupt his/her bank account depending on how serious your outrage is.
President Monson said that he doesn't know of any circumstance where anger is justified. There is even a greater damage anger does to yourself. You cannot have the Holy Ghost when you are angry. As Elder Corbridge said in his talk The Way, there is nothing greater than having the Holy Ghost and everything in life depends on having it.
On the extreme side pornography can turn you into a rapist and serial killer and at best it will make you unworthy of the Holy Ghost which is still an awful proposition. Because pornography disqualifies you from having the Holy Ghost it also slows or completely blocks off personal revelation from God. The prophets teach that the reason why we don't realize our full potential is because we see through a glass darkly which is caused by a weakness of the Holy Ghost. If you have a fullness of the Holy Ghost you can clearly see your potential and what you need to do to get there. Everything in life depends on having the Holy Ghost. Listen to The Way by Elder Corbridge.
It is the man's responsibility to be the spiritual leader and example in the home. In the book Being God's Man….In Leading A Family by authors Stephen Arterburn, Kenny Luck and Todd Wendorff, said, "He [Adam] was to give her [Eve] strength and keep her free from danger as they both fulfilled God's plan for them in the garden."
It is impossible for a man to give his wife strength and keep danger from her if he is involved in pornography. No matter how saintly a wife is, she will feel rejected and violated if her husband is involved in pornography. She may be willing to endure with him while he overcomes pornography, but surely the love and intimacy in the relationship will take a blow. You may not turn violent as many do, but it is guaranteed to canker your brain and spirit thus adversely affecting your relationship with your wife.
Pornography is more addictive than illegal drugs.
The good news is pornography can be overcome and Christ loves you even if you are addicted to pornography and He yearns to help you overcome it. The best policy is to make a decision once that you will NEVER touch it, no matter what. Make this decision once so you don't have to make it over and over again when the temptations arise.
Selfishness has the same effect of pride. Pride is the universal sin; everyone has it to some degree. Gordon B. Hinckley the prior president of the church stressed that selfishness is a major reason for divorce. Humility and meekness are the way to overcome it.
Repent of Our Selfishness: Neal A. Maxwell
Christ and His atonement are the secret to success in your married and family life. Without Christ you don't stand a chance, because Satan will do everything he possibly can do ruin your marriage and family.
A strong family starts with a strong marriage. Children mimic their parents and naturally adopt what they learn from their parents.
Marriage and family is something that sets the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints apart from every other church. Couples who are married in LDS temples are married for eternity. This is what LDS temples are built for, to make marriages and families forever, even family members who have already passed away. Every other marriage ceremony is only for this life. They all have the wording or meaning of until death do you part.
You lived in a pre-existence before coming down to earth and you will continue living when you die. The idea that families are or can be eternal to live with your loved ones for eternity is greater than words can express. The Plan of Salvation discusses the basics of where you came from why you are here and where you are going.
The church is constantly teaching to get out of debt. The church does not focus strictly on spiritual matters. Temporal conditions are very important to the church. Poor economic conditions effect you spiritually and adversely influences your family life. Money is a major factor for divorce. Interest debt is a form of bondage. The church teaches that some debt is acceptable such as a home and education and possibly a car.
Chastity and morality is a huge deal to the church, and will never change the policy no matter how much the world accepts immorality. The church is firm in its stand against not engaging in sexual relations before marriage, and if you are married to only have sexual relations with your spouse. The church believes the gravity of these sins is just below murder. Heavenly Father is very much concerned about how His children come into this world.
Elder Holland gave talk about the importance of chastity and sexual purity called Personal Purity. "One who uses the God-given body of another without divine sanction abuses the very soul of that individual, abuses the central purpose and processes of life."
I continue to be amazed at how many people I run across who think the LDS church still practices polygamy. No Mormon practices polygamy, if any Mormon did they would be excommunicated (kicked out of the church). When the church was restored the Lord revealed to Joseph Smith polygamy and commanded to start it.
Based on my understanding of church history, Joseph Smith actually resisted implementing polygamy. The Lord told Joseph Smith more than once to do it, and even had to go so far as threaten his soul if he didn't. My understanding is not everyone in the church practiced it, those families who practiced it did so from revelation of the church leaders. I don't know why the Lord instituted polygamy at that time. Polygamy was stopped in 1890.
There are groups in Utah who practice polygamy, but they are not members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. They often get media attention and viewers falsely believe they are members.
President Gordon B. Hinckley who recently passed away said the following about this subject;
"I wish to state categorically that this Church has nothing whatever to do with those practicing polygamy. They are not members of this Church. Most of them have never been members. They are in violation of the civil law. They know they are in violation of the law. They are subject to its penalties. The Church, of course, has no jurisdiction whatever in this matter. "If any of our members are found to be practicing plural marriage, they are excommunicated, the most serious penalty the Church can impose. Not only are those so involved in direct violation of the civil law, they are in violation of thelaw of this Church. An article of our faith is binding upon us. It states, 'We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law' (Articles of Faith 1:12)."
Family is so critical to the church that every general conference has talks dedicated specifically to marriage and the family. Many more talks not specifically about marriage and family address it in their talks as secondary main ideas.
Eternal Marriage: Elder F. Burton Howard of the Seventy
This is a powerful talk about marriage. He reinforces how critical the family and marriage is to the Lord and the church. The greatest and highest blessings are found in the family. Marriage and family is where you can experience the fullest of joy. True happiness is what everyone seeks. Some seek joy and happiness in all the wrong places.
Elder Howard links a story of nice silverware to building a powerful marriage. They bought a set of nice silverware that they protected and rarely used but only for very special occasions. Elder Howard made this connection to marriage, "If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently."He said to not make your marriage common or ordinary. He said, "It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by."
Marriage is not something to take lightly. When married in the temple you make a covenant with God, which is a promise between you and God that He CANNOT break. Elder Howard discusses three ways you can keep your end of the promise.
Celestial Marriage: By Elder Russell M. Nelson (Quorum of the Twelve Apostles)
Elder Nelson reemphasizes the doctrine that marriages are only continued after death in the temple. And mentions something that many overlook in the church. He says your temple marriage must be sealed by the holy spirit of promise. What this means is even if you are married in the temple but do not keep the commandments and covenants you will not be together in the next life even though you were married in the temple. Being married in the temple does not automatically bind your spouse and family to you. Eternal marriage is a conditional blessing, it is something you must earn through your faithfulness.
Elder Nelson said, "celestial marriage brings greater possibilities for happiness than does any other relationship."
Brigham Young said the doctrine of the church includes truth wherever it is found. The church teaches the importance of study and learning in general and from studying from the best books. Obviously the scriptures and the words of God are the best books.
Our 13th article of faith says, "…. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things." Clearly seeking after knowledge that will improve our lives wherever we can find it is a worthy cause.
The content for these articles are from my personal research. I learn from the professionals, most have at least a PHD and are considered scientists.
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Stand For The Family: This book should be in the library of every home and individual's bookshelf. Even though this intro is religiously oriented her book is not. Her book is based on experience and scientific data. Sharon is the president of Family Watch International, a nonprofit organization. Sharon is engaged in a cause to save the world from possible societal destruction. I know that is a strong statement, but the family is the bedrock of every society. When the family unravels, the downfall of society is right behind it.
The threat to families is a most serious matter. The family is of supreme importance to God. His entire plan and purpose revolves around the family. God cannot complete His work without families. God will not fail because He knows there are people like Sharon who are fearless and willing to get in the fight to preserve the institution of the family.
When people and especially governments intentionally destroy the family it will most certainly invoke the judgments of God. Satan's mission in life is to destroy the family and each individual in the family. Satan's mission is to destroy life and relationships especially family relationships. Sharon has done a great job in bringing to light some of the threats and especially radical threats to the family.
Heavenly Father has warned us about the consequences about the disintegration of the family. Consider the following;
I also think about Doctrine and Covenants 123: 7-8,
7: It is an imperative duty that we owe to God, to angels, with whom we shall be brought to stand, and also to ourselves, to our wives and children, who have been made to bow down with grief, sorrow, and care, under the most damning hand of murder, tyranny, and oppression, supported and urged on and upheld by the influence of that spirit which hath so strongly riveted the creeds of the fathers, who have inherited lies, upon the hearts of the children, and filled the world with confusion, and has been growing stronger and stronger, and is now the very mainspring of all corruption, and the whole earth groans under the weight of its iniquity.
8: It is an iron yoke, it is a strong band; they are the very handcuffs, and chains, and shackles, and fetters of hell.
10: Which dark and blackening deeds are enough to make hell itself shudder, and to stand aghast and pale, and the hands of the very devil to tremble and palsy.
Surely abortion is one of the most darkest and blackest deed.
I know a war veteran (I won't say what war or branch of service to further protect his identity) who experienced significant combat and saw more blood, guts and death than anyone should have to endure in 10 lifetimes. He said his family life growing up caused him much greater stress and anguish than the war did.
It is enough for God to say it is a duty to preserve the family but He said it is an imperative duty, meaning of supreme importance. These verses explain how Satan attempts to prevent, weaken and destroy relationships and family.
This scripture tells me that there is so much false information and ideas out there about the family. Sharon's book makes this point very clear.
Satan ruins relationships and family through lies and false beliefs. False beliefs about relationships and family, which are riveted (to fasten or fix firmly), are not easily loosened. Only the truth can set you free. Because Sharon is armed with the truth at the UN conferences, she is able to persuade other anti family delegates of their false creeds and sometimes change their position. They desist from destroying the family when they know the truth.
Sharon has brought to light some radical creeds that appear to be riveted in the hearts of groups intent on ruining family and society. You may or may not think abortion is a radical creed. No matter what you think of abortion, you will never think of it the same way after you read her chapters on abortion.
Let me just say that Heavenly Father cares very much how you and his children come into this life and how you exit this earth life. Many think about the importance of how people leave this earth but many don't pay close enough attention to how people come into this world.
Cold blood murder is a most serious crime to God. Abortion is cold blood murder and is certainly extremely detestable to God. Children are a heritage to the Lord and the most pure beings on earth. Abortion is no excuse (other than possibly if the mothers life is threatened) when there are plenty of couples who would adopt it.
She writes that a baby is aborted (killed) every 23 seconds in the United States. That adds up to a lot of abortions every day and year. Most abortions are done for social reasons.
Forgiveness is an amazing thing. Believe it or not, Christ will still show His love through the repentance process. Click here to read how that works. Every sin can be forgiven of. The pain of repentance is not the same kind of hurt as the pain of sin.
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